Dear friends and family,
It’s that time of year again. The Wave of Light is a tradition for our family to remember Louie and other little ones who are no longer with us. October 15 is infant & pregnancy loss remembrance day and observed through the international wave of light. We invite you to light a candle tomorrow (or send "light" thoughts/prayers) from 7pm-8pm in your local time zone.
This has been a summer of transition for us - the biggest changes since Louie passed away. We moved out of our SF home after 12 years - the only one our children have known, the only one that we shared with Louie. And while our home now is only a few blocks away, it feels like we’ve entered a new chapter.
We also took our first international trip as a family during a 6-week sabbatical that I was able to take this year. I was able to access a part of myself that felt like the “pre-grief” version. The part that still likes to experience different cultures and wander the world. The part that wants to change up routines. The part that started a blog about a peregrination.
On many days, I have felt like we were moving too far away from our son - both in time and space. But I also deeply understand that the only way that time stands still is with death. So I have come to embrace that it keeps going when life continues.
I know that I’m still growing and changing. I also know that Louie doesn’t get to grow with me and he’s still always missing from our family photo. Until then, we will look for Louie along the horizon and bring our love for him to our new home and to every place we visit.
In the broader context of all the tragedies occurring around the world, I hope we can take a moment during the Wave of Light to appreciate the loved ones that are here with us and light a candle to remember those who are not. After all, we don’t get to choose who gets to keep moving through time.
Sending you all love and peace,
M
